Topics: Commentary, Existentialism, Philosophy
The party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command. His heart sank as he thought of the enormous power arrayed against him, the ease with which any Party intellectual would overthrow him in debate, the subtle arguments which he would not be able to understand, much less answer. And yet he was in the right! They were wrong and he was right. George Orwell, 1984
From the article:
Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim doesn't realize how much they've been brainwashed. For example, in the movie Gaslight (1944), a man manipulates his wife to the point where she thinks she is losing her mind.
People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:
1. They tell blatant lies.
2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.
3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.
4. They wear you down over time.
5. Their actions do not match their words.
6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you.
7. They know confusion weakens people.
8. They project.
9. They try to align people against you.
10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.
11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.
Cult leader? CHECK!
The former "party of patriots" and "family values" have moved to impeach their own Deputy Attorney General because he dared to ask them post indicting 12 Russians that attacked our electoral process to "be Americans first." The problem is, the nation and our allies are being abused by a charlatan and a party that sees the fast-approaching shelf life of "The Southern Strategy." The difference is, this gaslighting is being done not as mental abuse to individuals, but to an entire planet! Amanda Marcotte wrote Troll Nation with a simple, yet understandable thesis - the right gave up trying to make a logical argument a long time ago - trickle-down is a joke, "prosperity gospel" is an obvious hustle and "family values" picked the p-grabber to shepherd the nuclear codes. So, their reason for living is to piss off liberals, period. It means opposing anything liberals find important like civil rights, LGBT rights, women's rights, universal health care, a living wage, a clean environment and combating global warming. It's the literal equivalent of shooting yourself in the foot and laughing that someone else is concerned about the gaping hole in it! These are people we shouldn't waste time trying to convince since "critical thinking" is against the tribal rules. I'm STILL trying not to be a prick as eventually, they have to come to the conclusion from Putin or Propecia their fears have been played against them and the nation.
I wanted to put this stake in the ground to say one thing: you're NOT crazy, HE is as well as his cult following! Why you're exhausted is this is his and his followers' "normal," which is abnormal and not a way to run a democratic republic...for very long.
With luck, a few hobbies, exercise, dates you enjoy; LONG walks and frequent escapes to Roku and Fire Sticks (and VOTING November 6, 2018), we'll get through this.
For the future of the nation and the species, we HAVE to.
How to survive gaslighting: when manipulation erases your reality, Ariel Leve, The Guardian
What is Gaslighting? National Domestic Violence Hotline
What is Gaslighting? Northpoint Recovery